My Adult Opinion

My girlfriend has tried plenty of dating sites and techniques, she is almost addicted to it. I was upset at first that she was doing this kind of stuff while still being with me, but as she told me more and more about it I became more and more interested. She has tried on-line dating and speed dating; she has tried joining all these online sites, because she finds it exciting. I know now that she is not interested in finding a husband or making any long term relationship and I now understand that she just loves the whole idea of it and the excitement she gets from the experience. My girlfriend is very attractive and, when she really makes the effort, stunning, even though I say so myself, so I imagine that she gets lots of attention and I expect that is what she likes.

She went to this speed dating event which was organised online. It was some way away from where she lives, a good 30 miles away, but she has told me that she would rather it was that way than local. You just don't know who you might meet, she said, and she didn't really fancy suddenly meeting someone she already knew by sight and then ended up bumping in to them every day afterwards, especially when she was already so attached to me. That would be so difficult, she said. I can certainly see her point, but I would be a bit upset about it all, if I was not in on everything that happens.

At the last speed dating event, she reckons that she got to talk to about twenty five guys. She had five minutes with each of them. The problem, she said, with speed dating is getting the balance right for communication. You don't really want everything from one side, or it just doesn't work. Also, she said, it's important to get across your personality, in fact more important than bothering about your interests and coming up with long lists of things which most people seem to do. The secret is to just try to talk naturally, she said, and don't fuss it.

She did actually meet a guy that she clicked with. What was his secret? He had a nice smile, apparently, so it might not be so important what you say as whether you brush your teeth and have a good shave and a haircut. That's my girlfriend though; she's never been very interested in words or content generally, what is most important to her is how things look and how presentable they are. She didn't get off with him, but she did spend a lot of time chatting afterwards to each other. The conversation never rose above a whisper, she said, but it got very intimate and personal at one point. She blushed as she told me that. She liked the idea that she still had the pulling power, I suppose.